In chapter 29 Jacob arrives at his destination, finds the woman of his dreams, and then through a series of events begins what had to be the most dysfunctional family in the Bible.
To begin, he makes his way to a well where shepherds have gathered to water their sheep. Whenever Rachel arrives he is love struck. I can sympathize with him, for whenever I see my wife I feel as though I could move a mountain. And that is just about what Jacob does! He moves the stone away and begins to help water the sheep. Then after some crying and kissing, he goes on to meet Laban, Rachel’s father (who also happens to be Rebekah’s brother and Jacob’s uncle).
After the emotional meeting of the families, the real trouble begins. I don’t know about you, but I almost enjoy seeing Jacob get a little taste of his own medicine. Laban and Jacob reach an agreement on the price for Rachel’s hand in marriage. Jacob serves his time and works for his goal. The day finally came and Jacob is married. The next day he discovers that he had been deceived! Laban switched daughters and gave Jacob Leah instead! I always am reminded of how Jacob had deceived his father and cheated his brother, how Isaac lied about Rachel being his wife, and how Abraham started it with his lies about Sarah.
Either way you look at it, the whole situation is messy. Laban then agrees to allow Jacob to work for Rachel (again). Jacob serves his time (again). He finally is awarded with his precious wife! They marry and then more trouble comes. Of course the time span that takes place in this chapter is large (14+ years!) but eventually the two wives (and their concubines) give birth to twelve sons to Jacob.
What can we learn from all this? A whole lot!
To begin with, as the old saying goes, what goes around comes around! The Bible calls this “sowing and reaping” (see Galatians 6.7-8). In Jacob’s case his deception of his father brought about his being deceived. How often do we do someone wrong or commit some unknown sin, only to have the same thing done to us in the future! This is a good initiative for us not do things to others just for the simple fact that it will come back to bite us. (Not that this should be a main reason, but it is a good motivator!)
Another lesson we can learn is that we should deal honestly with people. If we make an agreement we should avoid any future changes. We should be up front and state our business plainly. Jess said it this way, “Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.” (Matt. 5.37, ESV)
Perhaps the biggest lesson we can learn is to keep the family the way God intended, one man and one woman (see Genesis 2.24). Imagine the grief that Jacob would have avoided being satisfied with one wife! (I understand that Leah is not the one he loved nor the one he had worked for, but the fact that he consummated the marriage without knowing it was not Rachel is a little odd.) When we attempt to overstep the boundaries God has placed on us we place ourselves on the top of a slippery slope.
Let’s place ourselves on firm ground and not make the same mistakes that these people did! What are some things you see in this account in Jacob’s life that we can learn from? Please feel free to share!